Friday, September 11, 2015

Ketika Menstrual Syndrome Menyerang

Seperti biasa, aku berangkat kantor pagi, melewati jalan biasa yang tak sedikit bolong aspalnya. Merasa bosan dengan lagu elektronik yang biasa ku putar, aku memilih folder lagu Sam Smith untuk sekedar membuat ruangan mobilku tidak sunyi.

"Yes, I do, I believe that one day I will be where I was right there, right next to you... And it's hard, the days just seem so dark. The moon and the stars are nothing without you," aku cukup hapal menyanyikan lagu Lay Me Down ini. Maklum, liriknya sejalan dengan nasib.

Sampai mobilku terhenti, karena mobil depanku nge-rem. Aku tengok ke kiri mobil, oh ada tukang sayur tua yang lagi nyeberang. Dari raut mukanya terlihat si bapak tua berusaha keras mendorong gerobak sayurnya karena jalan sedikit menanjak. Kulitnya cokelat gelap, wajah penuh keriput, gerobaknya penuh sayur.

Lalu tetiba air mataku jatuh. Jatuh, satu, satu, lalu banyak.

Aku kasihan dengan bapak tua itu :( Ditambah lagu Sam Smith begitu kejam menusuk relung hati :( 

Kenapa aku bisa menangis dengan mudahnya? Aku cuma bisa menyalahkan menstrual syndrome ini :(




Monday, September 7, 2015

My Personality Type Result: ENFJ (September 2015)

I was a ISFP before (2013). Currently I have ENFJ personality.


ENFJs are natural-born leaders, full of passion and charisma. Forming around two percent of the population, they are oftentimes our politicians, our coaches and our teachers, reaching out and inspiring others to achieve and to do good in the world. With a natural confidence that begets influence, ENFJs take a great deal of pride and joy in guiding others to work together to improve themselves and their community.

People are drawn to strong personalities, and ENFJs radiate authenticity, concern and altruism, unafraid to stand up and speak when they feel something needs to be said. They find it natural and easy to communicate with others, especially in person, and their Intuitive (N) trait helps people with the ENFJ personality type to reach every mind, be it through facts and logic or raw emotion. ENFJs easily see people's motivations and seemingly disconnected events, and are able to bring these ideas together and communicate them as a common goal with an eloquence that is nothing short of mesmerizing.

The interest ENFJs have in others is genuine, almost to a fault – when they believe in someone, they can become too involved in the other person's problems, place too much trust in them. Luckily, this trust tends to be a self-fulfilling prophesy, as ENFJs' altruism and authenticity inspire those they care about to become better themselves. But if they aren't careful, they can overextend their optimism, sometimes pushing others further than they're ready or willing to go.

ENFJs are vulnerable to another snare as well: they have a tremendous capacity for reflecting on and analyzing their own feelings, but if they get too caught up in another person's plight, they can develop a sort of emotional hypochondria, seeing other people's problems in themselves, trying to fix something in themselves that isn't wrong. If they get to a point where they are held back by limitations someone else is experiencing, it can hinder ENFJs' ability to see past the dilemma and be of any help at all. When this happens, it's important for ENFJs to pull back and use that self-reflection to distinguish between what they really feel, and what is a separate issue that needs to be looked at from another perspective.

People with the ENFJ personality type are passionate altruists, sometimes even to a fault, and they are unlikely to be afraid to take the slings and arrows while standing up for the people and ideas they believe in. It is no wonder that many famous ENFJs are US Presidents – this personality type wants to lead the way to a brighter future, whether it's by leading a nation to prosperity, or leading their little league softball team to a hard-fought victory.

CONCLUSION

Few personality types are as inspiring and charismatic as ENFJs. Their idealism and vision allow ENFJs to overcome many challenging obstacles, more often than not brightening the lives of those around them. ENFJs' imagination is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.

Yet ENFJs can be easily tripped up in areas where idealism and altruism are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, staying calm under pressure, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder or making difficult decisions, ENFJs need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.

What you have read so far is just an introduction into the complex concept that is the ENFJ personality type. You may have muttered to yourself, "wow, this is so accurate it's a little creepy" or "finally, someone understands me!" You may have even asked "how do they know more about me than the people I'm closest to?"

This is not a trick. You felt understood because you were. We've studied how ENFJs think and what they need to reach their full potential. And no, we did not spy on you – many of the challenges you've faced and will face in the future have been overcome by other ENFJs. You simply need to learn how they succeeded.

But in order to do that, you need to have a plan, a personal roadmap. The best car in the world will not take you to the right place if you do not know where you want to go. We have told you how ENFJs tend to behave in certain circumstances and what their key strengths and weaknesses are. Now we need to go much deeper into your personality type and answer "why?", "how?" and "what if?"